Over the last few days, I’ve been going through different aspects of a relationship. Today, I want to go into how and why to let things go when in a relationship.
It’s easy to hold onto a fight or a grudge when you’re in a relationship. It’s easy to hold something against the person that harmed you. It’s easy to bring it up again and again when you have another disagreement.
I think the first step is to know if that person harmed you intentionally. If they did, then I think it might be time to analyze the relationship and see the benefits and costs of being there.
If that person didn’t harm you intentionally and the mistake was made with the best intention at heart, then that is definitely a reason to let something go. How will it benefit you to keep reliving the fight? How will it make you feel better? And hopefully, the other person really tries to learn from the mistake and it’s not repeated. If you see someone really trying to improve themselves, you have to give them the benefit of the doubt and not push them down if one little thing goes wrong.
A good way to ruin a relationship is to hold an image of someone in your head based off of one action or one impression and never giving them a second chance. You might miss out on a good thing if you are too stubborn to let this go.
Relationships do not thrive or succeed by being stagnant. They need to grow and the people within need to grow with it. Holding onto something from the past will suffocate something that needs to move forward.
Holding onto the past will also hurt you more than anyone else. I don’t know you but it eats me up inside. It gives me anxiety and unhappiness.
Figuring out how to let things go in an ongoing process especially when new challenges keep coming up.
Continuously moving forward though feels damn good though.
- Letting Go vs. Holding On (genuinegemsblog.wordpress.com)