How Can I Become That Girl Who Has Everything?

Sometimes, I go through this thing where I want things to change but honestly, I don’t want to do any work to change them. Then, occasionally, motivation comes along and I manage to actually work on making the changes to help me achieve my goals. But, seriously, does it ever just seem like some people have it easier than others?

I know that everyone has a story we don’t know about. Everyone has “stuff”. It’s not necessarily the same as ours but it is there and it is valid. But still, it seems like things just fall into some people’s laps. You know that guy/girl. That one who has everything. That one who hasn’t really had a day of trouble or stress. That one who seems to have gotten everything handed to them and all the obstacles are usually more of a formality.

It doesn’t quite feel fair. Some people seem to have the looks, the intelligence, the talent, the personality. Why do I feel like I was shorted out on one or more of those things?

So what do we do? How can we make our life better? Happier? Perfect?

I don’t know for sure but I’m guessing that even almost all of those people had to work to get to where they are at. So that’s what we have to do. Work at it. If you’ve seen some of my recent posts about post-childbirth, I do talk about how I’ve been dealing with a lot of changes in my life and finding myself again has been work. I have been trying to put in my time though.

Life isn’t fair. And it’s not going to just hand you everything you want. You also have to find a way to appreciate the things that you do have. It’s so easy to see what you’re missing but, sometimes, you have so much that another person might really want in their life. Somehow, we have to learn to value these little things that do make things good for us.

Something my sister-in-law once said to me that stays with me all the time is “You are exactly where you are supposed to be”. It helps to ground me and make sure that I remember to live in the moment. Then, I don’t keep trying to watch what other people are doing and I only enjoy what I’m doing instead.

Life can be hard for most of us. It involves a lot of change that sometimes is expected, sometimes unexpected. We can only keep trying to improve ourselves and find our own happiness wherever we can. Once I start doing that, I might start seeing myself as that girl who has everything.

Think for Yourself

One thing that has been bothering me a lot lately is when people don’t think for themselves. I honestly believe that most people are intelligent and really can figure things out but they have to take the time and effort to make it happen.┬áSome people who always look to the next person for the answers instead of working something out for themselves.

On the same note, the word “can’t” really gets to me. There really is no “can’t” in life. There is fear, there is laziness, there is plain ignorance. But there is no “can’t”. This is speaking from my very limited world view. There is always the chance that there are situations where the word “can’t” has a very real application but from my sight, with what I know and have exposure to, the word doesn’t apply.

So why is this? I understand being burnt out which can lead you to a lack of motivation. But, if that’s not the case, why do we assume that we have the right to be given the solutions to problems? Why can’t we try to figure the solutions out for ourselves? Isn’t there some sort of accomplishment when it does happen?

I honestly don’t understand. I know that I get lazy sometimes and want the answers easily then but most of the time, that’s not the case. I don’t want someone else to look at me like I am unable to figure something out. I want to feel empowered, like I have the ability to make things happen. I don’t believe this is a unique situation. I was under the impression that most people felt this way. But recently, it seems like I keep meeting people that want to find the easy path. I’m not saying to make things more difficult for yourself. I’m saying find a way to figure things out for yourself so that you aren’t dependent on someone else for the solution to something.

If anyone can explain this to me, it would be much appreciated.