One thing that has been bothering me a lot lately is when people don’t think for themselves. I honestly believe that most people are intelligent and really can figure things out but they have to take the time and effort to make it happen. Some people who always look to the next person for the answers instead of working something out for themselves.
On the same note, the word “can’t” really gets to me. There really is no “can’t” in life. There is fear, there is laziness, there is plain ignorance. But there is no “can’t”. This is speaking from my very limited world view. There is always the chance that there are situations where the word “can’t” has a very real application but from my sight, with what I know and have exposure to, the word doesn’t apply.
So why is this? I understand being burnt out which can lead you to a lack of motivation. But, if that’s not the case, why do we assume that we have the right to be given the solutions to problems? Why can’t we try to figure the solutions out for ourselves? Isn’t there some sort of accomplishment when it does happen?
I honestly don’t understand. I know that I get lazy sometimes and want the answers easily then but most of the time, that’s not the case. I don’t want someone else to look at me like I am unable to figure something out. I want to feel empowered, like I have the ability to make things happen. I don’t believe this is a unique situation. I was under the impression that most people felt this way. But recently, it seems like I keep meeting people that want to find the easy path. I’m not saying to make things more difficult for yourself. I’m saying find a way to figure things out for yourself so that you aren’t dependent on someone else for the solution to something.
If anyone can explain this to me, it would be much appreciated.
When I was in the Army, we dare not use this word and if some one used it, he was admonished and if he happened to be a junior, was punished. You are right, have the will power to do a thing. Be positive and strive hard and attempt to do it. Find solutions and keep trying. Do not surrender and don’t say I can’t do it. In fact this aspect is given major weight-age during the Service Selection Board Interview in India, which lasts for 4 days. The student is put through various difficult levels and they judge whether he is capable of to overcome these at his own or not.