Socially Awkward

One of my good girlfriends was surprised when I told her I was an introvert. Unless I’m comfortable with the people I’m with, I’m not too good at being super social. 

If I end up in a room with a bunch of people I don’t know, I have to force myself to be friendly. I would much rather curl up in the corner with a good book. I have a friend who can literally walk into a place and make friends with everyone there and leave knowing everyone’s life story. I really wish I could do that. 

Those people who can be friends with everyone amaze me. And I don’t mean the fake people that pretend to be friends with you. I mean the sincere people who really want to know you and create a new relationship. 

So what makes us introverted? I don’t know if it’s entirely the insecurity of the possibility that the new people you meet might not like you or if it’s just a preference. I don’t think being an introvert is a bad thing at all. It’s who you are. I just have trouble accepting it for myself because I judge myself to be socially awkward when I’m not the person who knows everyone in the room. Talking to someone one on one is much easier for me. Put me in a room of a bunch of people I don’t know and I want to run the other way. 

I asked my cousin once on how she manages to go anywhere and be comfortable talking to anyone. She told me that her secret is just to ask them about themselves. I still have to learn to employ this technique. 

Being introverted is a challenge. It’s not an easy thing to overcome. One day, I hope to be comfortable enough with myself that I have an easier time being in a large crowd. I’m pretty sure I can’t be the only person who feels this way. 

How do you manage to be social in a large crowd? 

3 thoughts on “Socially Awkward

  1. LetmebeRae says:

    Well don’t push yourself so hard. I think that you’re pressuring yourself to be an extrovert which is something you don’t have to do. You’re an introvert. That’s normal! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Go in the room and connect with one person, and call it a day! Who says you HAVE to make friends with everyone? Introverts can learn social skills to use in such situations but don’t burden yourself as if you don’t do it, something is wrong with you. I had to learn that myself. The sooner you accept it the better!

    • Shailee Butalia says:

      I agree with you. I’ve become comfortable not participating all the time. And I’ve learned to accept that that is who I am. People that know me know who I am as well so I’m glad that I don’t try too hard anymore.

      • LetmebeRae says:

        That’s great. I’m still working on my social skills. Now some people don’t even think I’m an introvert but no no no, I’d still rather be at home alone or with one friend than out and trying to small talk within a big group of people!

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